Monthly Archives: May 2012

‘Til Death Do Us Part’

I have never attended a wedding that didn’t include this promise.  Or one very much like it, ‘As long as we both shall live.’  And on that momentous, life-changing day, every bride and groom means it with all of their heart.

But if I look at every couple I’ve ever known, I only know of two who actually made it to that point.  My grandparents and one aunt and uncle.

In every other marriage, at least one half of the couple has been divorced.

While the rate is declining, from 7.9 (per 1,000) in 1980 to 5.2 in 2008, the United States still leads the world in the number of divorces.  Frankly I’m not sure where the .9 and .2 come from because I think it’s pretty much impossible to divorce part of a person.


That’s a lot of divorcing.  And it makes me wonder what happens between the ‘You may kiss your bride,’ and the dissolution of the marriage.

Sure there are issues like abuse, alcohol and drugs in some cases, and we all can understand that.  But in normal, happy relationships, what happens?  Is it because boredom sets in?  Bad habits (like leaving the toilet seat up, or the cap off the toothpaste) that a husband or wife just can’t deal with?  I mean something was there in the beginning that clearly isn’t at the end.

I suspect some couples call it quits because if they don’t, the ’til death do us part’ will become an issue, resulting in a prison sentence for the surviving spouse.

Any thoughts on the matter?  What do you think are some of the causes of divorce these days?



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Never Let Go of Your Dreams

Have you ever had a dream but, because others laughed at you…or made fun of you…you just gave up on it?  That’s the topic I’m covering today at my website in Never Let Go of Your Dreams.





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With Love and Appreciation…

…to all of the men and women who serve in our military.  Thank you so very much for the sacrifices you make to keep our country and its citizens safe.

If you enjoy the freedom our soldiers have fought for, take a moment this Memorial Day, to think about what they’ve done for us.  Say a prayer the families of those who have given their lives, and for those who put their lives on the line…for us…every day.  While we’re firing up the grills, and working in our yards, there are thousands who wish they could be doing the same thing.

Remember them today…

And just because this is so awesome…


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The Air Smells Clean After A Rain Shower?


I love walking in the rain on a warm day.  I love the sound a hard rain makes when it hits the roof and windows.  I even love the sound of thunder rumble in the distance (I do not, however, love lightening).

October and November are my favorite months for showers…when the days turn chilly and the air has a crisp, clean quality that it never has any other time of the year.  That’s the best time of year to experience a day stuck inside because it’s too wet to venture anywhere else.  The dampness outside works its way into the house, meaning it’s time to break out sweaters, fuzzy socks, candles, good books, and mugs of hot cocoa or hazelnut coffee.

But rain in the spring and summer…

Sorry, I’m from Michigan.  I know that farmers need it to grow crops.  I know it’s needed to prevent droughts, and to keep the levels of lakes and rivers where they should be.  Sometimes, on exceptionally hot and muggy days, a timely storm can bring an all too brief respite from the miserable heat and humidity (the downside being that it leaves the air even more humid in its wake).  Other than that blissful ten or fifteen minutes, though, I don’t enjoy warm weather rain.

Why?  Because it makes the air smell like worms.  Not that I’ve ever been close enough to a worm to touch one, much less sniff one, but that’s what I’ve always imagined they would smell like.

So I Googled it to make sure I wasn’t completely nuts…and I’m not the only one who thinks that.  In fact, according to, the air does smell like worms.  Earthworms, to be specific.

It makes me wonder about all of the laundry supplies with names that proclaim to be rain-water fresh.  And all I can think of is why in the world would anyone want their clothes to smell like THAT?!

I was going to put up a video about a bird getting a worm, but this one is a lot more fun.  Doritos are much better than worms!

Oh please, can I please, please, please walk around in jeans and a tee shirt that smells like earthworms?  I don’t think so.  I’m not sure where the manufacturers came up with these advertising ideas, but obviously none of them strolled down any sidewalks in this state after a storm.

Has anyone else ever thought the air smelled like worms after it rains?


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Another Memory Dies

It seems like every time I turn around these days progress, or the economy, is killing off more of my childhood.  Places guaranteed to trigger memories of things that happened while I was growing up are closing down, being remodeled to use as something else, or being bulldozed to make room for something else entirely.

When I was four, my family lived close to a huge General Motors complex.  My baby sister would have been about two years old during the time we lived there and one morning, while she was using the second floor bathroom…the lock jammed.  Dad was at work so an uncle brought a ladder to free the captive.

As an adult I realize it probably took him about twenty minutes to get there.  My four year old mind, however, thought it took forever and I wound up sitting on the floor outside the bathroom, sliding cookies under the door to her so she wouldn’t starve.

It’s a great memory, and I was a more than a little blue when the buildings were torn down a few years ago because they always reminded me of that day.

So many things are gone now that meant something to me at some point in my life…

An apartment complex and parking lot sits on the site of the field where I played softball for two summers.  Okay, played is a bit of an exaggeration.  Of course none of us girls knew what we were doing.  In fact, the only thing that made us a team was our matching tee shirts.  We were ‘The Untouchables’ the first year, and  ‘The Octopuses’ (yuck!) the next.  Turns out we should have kept The Untouchables because it was fairly accurate…in that none of the other teams even came close to removing us from our last place standing.

As I think about the title of today’s post, I realize that it’s actually wrong.  While the fields, restaurants, stores, theaters, and so many other places are gone, or closed down, the memories are still alive and well.  I not only remember what is no longer ‘there,’ I remember why it still means something to me.

The abandoned building where we used to buy the world’s best nutty donuts.  Another that’s now an office used to sell the world’s best fish and chips.  Or the old hardware store, across from the school that’s no longer there either, where we were introduced to Zots…the best and coolest candy in the world!

Has anyone but me ever noticed that if you did it, ate it, or experienced it when you were a kid, it was the best?  And that if we have an opportunity to ‘do it again,’ it never seems to live up to our memories of it?

This song never fails to bring tears to my eyes.

Are there any buildings or businesses that are gone now, but when you drive past the place where they used to be, they bring to mind special memories?


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200th Blog & Some Fun Facts

Yup, sure enough.  Today marks my 200th blog here at WordPress.  Technically anyway.  After reading Susie Lindau’s post on Thursday, How to Break out of Jail and Other Useful Tidbits!, I’m not sure they’re all actually here.   Or at least visible.  Something to do with the time stamp.  Although maybe it doesn’t count against you when you import them.  Hope not because I started off blogging on my website…and quickly discovered that WordPress has more bells and whistles.  At the top of that list is the ability to post YouTube videos…and we all know that I love doing that.

In fact, I’m going to post one now.  The song, by Five For Fighting, is titled, ‘100 Years.’  Since this is a blog about two hundred, I guess you’ll have to listen to it twice (okay, I’m kidding…you don’t have to listen to it twice).  It’s about how quickly time passes, and it surely does.  It seems like only a moment ago I was fifteen and falling in love with everything about writing.

The entire song is great but my favorite line is, ‘Chasing the years of my life.’

A tragedy nearly eighteen months ago reminded me of how short life is.   You can be here one day then, with no warning at all, be gone the next.   It was while still dealing with that last spring that I realized it was time to start pursuing some of my dreams.  They were moving farther away from me and it was time to catch up up to them.  And so I finally got serious about my writing, did some research…then kicked it all off with a bang.  I mean a blog.

Now, with my first year anniversary coming up on June 6th, I’ve been looking back at some of my early posts. I had to chuckle when I got to the first one.   Of course it was about a subject near and dear to my heart…my septic tank.  Nothing like putting my best foot forward.

It’s been a great experience for me though.  I’ve been able to ‘meet’ and get to know some awesome readers and writers, and I wouldn’t trade my life today for anything in the world. (Well, maybe I’d trade it for Bruce Willis or Jeffrey Dean Morgan…)

In honor of my 200th post, I thought I’d see if I could find some interesting facts about the number 200.  And what I came up with was definitely interesting.

According to The Telegraph:

One quarter of the world’s wealth is controlled by 200 companies.  I think I would like to own one of those companies.

Pony Express riders averaged 200 miles per day.  Ouch.  That’s all.  Just…ouch.

Dandelion flower heads produce 200 seeds.  Given the abundance of bright yellow weeds scattered all over my yard between mowings, I am not surprised to learn this.

Each year 200 Japanese execs kick the bucket while golfing.  Wonder what kind of betting goes on before those games?  “Five hundred on Hiroshi.  Yeah, heart attack at the sand trap.”

To commemorate the 200th anniversary of Mozart’s death, Triumph International, the second largest lingerie company in Japan, made a lighted bra that played Twinkle, Twinkle Little Star.  They erred just a little bit in thinking that Mozart wrote the tune.  Be fun to own the bra though, wouldn’t it?  You’d be the hit of any party you wore it to.

In the Old Testament, David accepted a challenge from Saul and basically stole 200 Philistine foreskins to claim his wife.  Wow.  How romantic.  Um…not!


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It’s Time For Some New Goals

I was completely amazed at how much I was able to accomplish after joining my first ROW80 in January.  Unfortunately I realized that I only have so much time and energy to go around.  And I realized that I just didn’t have enough of either to support all of the other participants like I should if I were going to be a part of the group.  Therefore my first ROW80 has to be my last.  For now anyway.


The public announcement of my plans, and each week’s updates, was extremely motivating…so I’m going to launch out on my own and start adding a brief post on Sundays stating whether I’ve met my goals or not.  I will break my goals up in the same way the other group does, three months at a time, and see what happens.  This means I have approximately  six weeks until the end of June.

My goals are:

1.  Finish editing current MS for July 20, 2012 release

2.  Finish editing and correcting formatting issues in The Daddy Pact (I will work on the other two beginning in July)

3.  Expand outline for third book in series so I can begin writing again in July  (current word count is 15,254)

4.  Work on outline for second WIP, and add 500+ words each day, five days a week (current word count is 20,108)

5.  Try harder to spend more time on Twitter

6.  Figure out a workable schedule for blogs I’m currently following

7.  Check out a few new blogs every week.

Just looking at this list makes me want to hunt up a paper bag to breathe into, but I’ll see how it goes the first couple of weeks.  Please feel free to ignore my Sunday updates because this is just an experiment to see if I can get back on track.  🙂




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